Create a
midlife
you love
Quit drinking. Feel better. Live more.
“Love Sober is the go-to for women wanting an alcohol-free midlife’’
Trish Halpin - Postcards from the Midlife, Editor-in-Chief Marie Claire
Are you questioning your relationship
with alcohol?
I can help you to love your life without alcohol
Maybe you’ve started wondering whether you drink too much. You’ve tried cutting back, taking a month off or making rules about when and how much you drink — only to find yourself slipping back into the same habits.
Perhaps alcohol has become your way to switch off at the end of the day. A reward. A treat. Something that helps you relax, socialise or cope when life feels too much. Nothing looks particularly dramatic from the outside, but increasingly you’re thinking: I don’t want to keep doing this.
You might not even know whether you want to quit forever.
That’s okay. You don’t need to label yourself, hit rock bottom or have everything figured out before you ask for support.
I’m an ICF Professional Coach and the author of Love Yourself Sober and Love Your Sober Year. I’ve spent more than a decade helping women understand their relationship with alcohol and create lives that feel better without it.
My approach isn’t about labels or gritting your teeth through sobriety with willpower. We look at why you drink, what alcohol is doing for you, what keeps pulling you back to it — and what needs to change so that drinking stops feeling like the answer.
Through personalised coaching, practical tools and compassionate accountability, I’ll help you move from questioning and stop-start attempts towards sustainable alcohol-free living — with support that takes into account the realities of women’s lives, including stress, hormones, menopause and midlife change.
You don’t have to know whether you’re ready to quit forever. You just have to be ready to explore what life could feel like without alcohol running the show.
Hi, I’m Kate, let’s explore working together.
I'm an award nominated ICF Professional Coach, sobriety expert and author of Love Yourself Sober and Love Your Sober Year.
For over a decade, I’ve helped women question their drinking, quit alcohol and build lives in which they no longer need or want to drink.
My work combines evidence-based coaching, behaviour change and compassionate, practical support, with specialist knowledge of menopause and midlife.
Being alcohol-free is one of the most powerful shifts a woman can make.
Your next steps to a happier, healthier Midlife.
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Rethink Your Drinking
Not sure what you want to do yet?
Download my free Rethinking Your Drinking guide and use three practical tools to explore your relationship with alcohol, what it’s costing you and what you might want to change.
You’ve tried to cut down before, ?
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Take a 30-Day Break
Curious about life without alcohol?
Take alcohol off the table for 30 days with daily guidance and practical tools to help you understand your drinking, navigate cravings and discover how you feel without it.
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Work with me
Ready for personalised support?
If you’re tired of stopping, starting and trying to figure this out alone, my one-to-one coaching will help you change your relationship with alcohol and build sustainable alcohol-free living.
You don’t have to figure this out alone.
If you are in your midlife, juggling career, family, caregiving the invisible load of being a woman in peri menopause or menopause you will be feeling it.
Alcohol often becomes part of how we switch off, cope or reward ourselves — how we mask other challenges and it may have worked until at some point you realised it was costing more than money. In midlife, with fluctuating hormones, it starts making everything harder: sleep, anxiety, confidence, energy and emotional resilience.
For over a decade I’ve helped women change their relationship with themselves and with alcohol. I’m an author, host of the Love Sober podcast, and holistic coach trained in positive psychology, nervous system regulation, yoga and menopause support.
My approach combines practical coaching tools with nervous system support, habit change science and creative sustainable change that feels good to you.
Being alcohol-free is one of the most powerful shifts a woman can make.
Putting it together
Combining powerful coaching techniques, habit change science, somatics and holistic support we get to the root of problematic alcohol use and create a roadmap for a healthy, happy sober midlife.
✓ Your relationship with alcohol
✓ Energy and self esteem
✓ Hormones, nervous system & wellbeing
✓ What's happening in this stage of life
✓ Practical next steps that fit your life
You will also receive a Menopause School created Journal & Tracker with your session.
“I can’t believe how easy I found it to stop drinking once I understood how to meet my sensory needs and understood what was happening hormonally. Thank you, Kate. ”
Why my approach is different- Real tools for real women.
Hormonal change, stress, nervous system regulation and alcohol all influence one another. Understanding the whole picture helps you make decisions that are informed, compassionate and sustainable.
Rather than simply tackling the alcohol piece, we'll explore what's really needed for midlife sobriety - habit change, hormones, mindset and stress and exhaustion - the support and the resources that best fit your unique life, health and circumstances in midlife to set you up for success.
“I cannot stress enough how much I had been dreading this holiday and wanting, ‘just to emerge intact and with my dignity’
Well……. Guess what, using all the tools you gave me really worked! Oh! I haven’t even mentioned alcohol - obviously I haven’t had any! ”
Client Reviews
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‘‘This coach should come with a health warning - will seriously improve your life!”
— Jo, West Sussex.⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Kate is the real deal - kind, caring, reflective, smart. She's been down the path and understood what you are going through. She has personal knowledge, training, and expertise in many fields.
-Denise, Canada
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Kate’s approach to alcohol free living is so positive - she helped me totally change my mindset - I don’t feel deprived - just relieved and happy
— Lauren, U.K.⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
You‘ve created such a safe place. The course reignited my self belief. has It all started to make sense and rather than years of feeling like there is something “wrong” with me!
-Michelle, U.K.
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“I did coaching and a course with Kate and I am now coming up to seven years sober!’’
— Catherine, U.K ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
To someone considering this path - this is going to change your entire perspective on what it is to be sober. It is a joy and not a chore. It is exciting and not fearful. I no longer feel like recovery is a prison I have to be in, it's a freedom I have never had the opportunity to enjoy.!
-Aoife, Eire.
Rethinking Your Drinking
3 practical tools for women in midlife who are questioning their relationship with alcohol
Maybe nothing dramatic has happened. Your life looks fine from the outside. But alcohol is taking up more space than you'd like — and you're starting to wonder whether it's still working for you.
I've created this free guide to help you get curious about your drinking, without labels, shame or waiting for a rock bottom.
Inside you'll find:
What's Alcohol Costing Me?
A coaching exercise to explore what alcohol gives you — and what it's costing you physically, emotionally and practically.
Am I a Grey-Area Drinker?
A simple guide to the big space between occasional drinking and alcohol dependence, with questions to help you understand where your own drinking might sit.
The 5 O'Clock Solution
A practical mind-body tool for that end-of-day I need a drink moment — helping you understand what you actually need and find another way to meet it.
Enter your details below and I'll send the guide straight to your inbox.
Other ways to work with me
This is a journey, not a destination
If you are sober curious, you are welcome, if you are ten years sober, you are welcome.
If 1:1 Coaching is not the right fit at present, I also offer group coaching, and facilitate women's circles, with the intention of us creating lives that feel calmer, clearer and more meaningful.
Our work together is grounded in evidence-based coaching, menopause and yoga training, nervous system regulation and ten years of lived recovery experience.
My groups support sustainable alcohol free living by drawing inspiration from nature, science, the seasons, ritual and the wisdom of women gathering together.
‘‘Kate is much more than a sobriety coach. She's a powerful voice in the alcohol free movement and an advocate for lasting change’’
Simon Chapple, Founder - Be Sober.