Private coaching with specialist midlife women’s sober coach
Habit change, holistic health, peri-menopause and menopause support
Hi, I’m Kate.Let’s create a sober midlife you Love
Being alcohol-free is one of the most powerful shifts a woman can make — and hardly anyone talks about it honestly.
It gives you your energy back, your clarity and your self-respect.
Not in a surface-level way, but in a grounded, lived way. You start to feel more like yourself again — more present, more steady, as you end that cycle of pushing through and picking yourself up.
If you’re starting to question your drinking, you’re not broken — you’re waking up to what you actually need. It’s actually a threshold moment.
In midlife, the old ways stop working. Your body asks for something different. Your nervous system asks for more care. And alcohol, often quietly, keeps you just off-centre — more depleted and actually less connected than you want to be.
Changing your relationship with alcohol isn’t just about the absence of hangovers, it’s about returning to yourself.
Life feels clearer, more spacious, and more aligned with who you are now.
Because this isn’t the end of anything.
It’s where things begin to open up.
Am I a Grey Area Drinker?
Somewhere between the poles of an occasional drink and being fully dependant on alcohol is a broad spectrum called Alcohol use Disorder or Concern.
If you identified with the list it could be that you are a Grey Area Drinker. If you are then it means alcohol is costing you more than just money and you deserve to be free of alcohol!
Maybe you've tried to quit before. You've read the books, done Dry Jan/ pregnancies alcohol free. You’ve listened to the podcasts, maybe even started therapy or joined a course or group. But you keep going back.
You might find yourself:
Swinging between "I can do this" and complete overwhelm
Feeling sick and tired of thinking about drinking
Able to go a few days without drinking
Binging at weekends or drinking more than you plan to
Setting rules around drinking
Struggling to set boundaries without drowning in guilt
Carrying shame about your past
Trying to hold everyone else together while you're quietly falling apart
Trying to convince yourself that because no one else would guess this is a problem for you, you somehow don’t ‘qualify’ for sobriety.
Living with anxiety
Repeating patterns you know aren't working - but not knowing how to stop
Knowing that you want this to change but not knowing quite how.
And beneath it all, you might be afraid.
Afraid that life without it will be boring, that you won’t connect or have fun again, that your relationships will change. That people will judge you. That you'll fail. Again.
It doesn’t have to be this way. With support, tools and consistency you can be free from alcohol.
Alcohol & perimenopause: Why it hits harder now
Perimenopause isn’t a moment — it’s a transition that can last up to ten years before menopause.
During this time, oestrogen and progesterone fluctuate unpredictably, placing extra demand on the body’s regulatory systems.
Alcohol adds a significant extra load.
Your liver plays a central role in hormone balance, particularly in metabolising and clearing oestrogen. When alcohol is present, the liver prioritises detoxifying alcohol first — meaning it has less capacity to process hormones efficiently.
This matters because oestrogen supports:
Mood stability and emotional resilience
Cognitive function and memory
Sleep regulation
Bone, heart, and brain health
Nervous system balance and stress tolerance
When alcohol regularly interrupts this process, the body can experience:
Heightened anxiety and low mood
Poorer sleep and night waking
Increased brain fog and overwhelm
Reduced stress resilience
Stronger emotional reactions and fatigue
In perimenopause, we are already more sensitive to stress. Alcohol can amplify that sensitivity — not because anything is “wrong” with you, but because your body is working harder to maintain equilibrium.
For many women, reducing or removing alcohol becomes a powerful act of support, allowing hormones, the nervous system, and energy levels to stabilise. What often emerges is not restriction — but relief.
This is why alcohol-free living in midlife isn’t about willpower.
It’s about working with your biology, not against it.
Holistic Midlife Sobriety coaching and mentoring
HALT
Pause. Take stock. Tell the truth.
We begin with a Life & Hormonal Health Audit — a grounded look at where you actually are.
Together we challenge outdated beliefs around alcohol, ageing, and what’s “normal” for midlife.
From here, sobriety shifts from something you’re losing to the baseline for clarity, energy, and new possibility in this powerful stage of your life.
Habits
Rewire the day-to-day.
We get specific about your patterns, triggers, and pressure points — then build a bespoke, realistic wellbeing plan.
This is where change becomes practical: routines, boundaries, accountability, and motivation.
Step by step, you create a steady foundation that actually holds in real life.
Happiness
Build a life that feels good to be in.
Using Positive Psychology and the Science of Happiness, we move beyond “coping” into creation.
You’ll reconnect with what you truly want — your values, needs, pleasures, and ambitions — and design a way of living that feels meaningful, energising, and yours.
Health
Work with your body, not against it.
This isn’t just mindset. Midlife brings real physiological shifts.
You’ll be supported with up-to-date menopause knowledge, nervous system regulation, and somatic tools to reduce stress, restore balance, and build resilience.
So you feel grounded, calm, and sustainably well — not running on empty.
Ways to Work with me
30-Day Love Sober Coaching Intensive
A focused month of personal support to help you change your relationship with alcohol.
You know something needs to change, but three months of coaching feels like a big commitment right now.
This is somewhere to begin.
Over 30 days, we'll work together to understand your drinking patterns, identify your particular triggers and pressure points, and start building practical ways to navigate cravings, stress, socialising and the habitual pull towards alcohol.
You'll also work through my Love Yourself Sober 30-Day programme, giving you daily guidance and tools between our sessions.
This isn't a promise to “fix” everything in a month.
It's a supported space to step away from alcohol, understand what's really going on and begin creating a different way forward.
What's included
✓ 3 × 60-minute private coaching sessions — at the beginning, middle and end of your month
✓ Love Yourself Sober: 30 Days — my daily email and audio programme
✓ Weekday WhatsApp/email support between sessions
✓ Personalised tools and practices for cravings, habits, stress and nervous system regulation
✓ Menopause and midlife support where relevant
This might be right for you if:
You want to take a proper break from alcohol but keep finding yourself back at the same starting point.
You're sober-curious or questioning whether alcohol still has a place in your life.
Perimenopause, menopause, anxiety, sleep or stress have changed the way alcohol affects you.
Or you simply want some personal support to get started without committing to a longer coaching programme.
£395 for 30 days
One month. Three private sessions. Daily guidance. Personal support.
Midlife Sober Coaching — 3 Months
For women ready for deeper, sustained change.
If you already know that you want more than a 30-day intervention, this is my deeper private coaching container.
Over twelve weeks, we work together consistently — not through willpower or white-knuckling, but through compassionate support that works with your nervous system, habits, hormones and the deeper patterns beneath the coping.
This is for you if:
✓ You're ready to stop managing and start making meaningful change
✓ You have some sober stretches under your belt and want to make sobriety stick — and actually feel good
✓ You know the patterns run deeper than alcohol alone
✓ You want consistent support, accountability and space to explore what's changing
✓ You want to create a sober midlife that isn't simply about not drinking, but about how you actually want to live
What's included
✓ Weekly 60-minute private coaching sessions for 12 weeks
✓ Ongoing weekday WhatsApp support between sessions
✓ Tools, practices and reflections tailored to you
✓ Habit change, nervous system and menopause-informed support
✓ Membership of the Love Sober Community
£500 per month for 3 months
We Might Work On….
Nervous system support & cravings
Understanding why your body reaches for relief — and learning how to soothe stress, overwhelm, and discomfort without alcohol.
The shame spiral
Gently unpicking guilt, self-criticism, and the old stories you’ve been carrying — and replacing them with compassion, clarity, and self-respect.
Boundaries, self-trust & self-honouring choices
Learning how to say no without guilt, keep promises to yourself, and rebuild trust in your own inner authority.
Navigating life sober in midlife
Social situations, family dynamics, work events — what to say, what you need, what you genuinely enjoy now.
Who you are without alcohol
Rediscovering your identity, joy, confidence, and aliveness beyond coping — especially as you move through midlife change.
Rituals that actually support your sober self
Simple, realistic daily practices that ground your nervous system and give you something steady to reach for.
Building a life you don’t want to numb out of
Not just stopping drinking — but creating a life rooted in your values, strengths, needs, and the woman you are becoming in midlife and beyond.
Qualified and Accredited
Kate Baily is an ICF Accredited, trauma-informed Integrative Sobriety & Wellbeing Life Coach, specialising in holistic support for women navigating midlife, perimenopause, sobriety, and stress.
She brings a unique blend of lived experience, professional training, and deep compassion to her work. Kate was a finalist in the International Coaching Awards (2019), and is proud to align her work with the SHE RECOVERS® Intentions & Guiding Principles as a certified SHE RECOVERS® Coach.
Kate also serves as a Coach Mentor and Associate Coach Trainer for The Coaching Academy, supporting the next generation of coaches.
Her professional training includes:
ICF Accreditation (ACC)
Certified Menopause Doula
YT200 Certified Yoga Teacher
Certificates in Counselling, The Science of Happiness, and the Neurobiology of Stress
As a coach, Kate abides by the International Coach Federation Code of Ethics, is fully insured, and undertakes regular supervision and CPD to maintain her credentials.
When choosing a coach or recovery professional, it’s important to ensure they are trained, insured, and ethically aligned.
You can find helpful guidance via Alcohol Change UK
FAQs
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What happens in a coaching session?
Each session is a 60-minute private online session held on Zoom.
We begin by arriving. This may include a brief grounding or nervous system regulation practice to help you transition from the busyness of your day into a focused, supportive space. This allows us to work not only cognitively, but also somatically.
From there, we clarify your intention for the session. You may come with something specific — a wobble, a craving, a relationship dynamic, perimenopause symptoms, a boundary you are navigating — or we may explore what feels most alive and relevant in the moment.
Using a coaching framework (often informed by the GROW model), we will:
Clarify your current reality
Explore patterns, triggers, or beliefs
Identify options and practical strategies
Agree clear, realistic next steps
Sessions may include:
Reflective questioning
Habit and behaviour change tools
Nervous system education and regulation techniques
Hormonal and midlife psychoeducation where relevant
Visualisation or journaling prompts
Relapse prevention and forward planning
This is not therapy and it is not advice-giving. It is a collaborative, structured conversation designed to increase awareness, strengthen your agency, and support sustainable change.
You will leave with clarity, practical actions, and practices to integrate between sessions.
Above all, sessions are confidential, non-judgemental, and centred around your autonomy.
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No.
You do not need to be fully sober to work with me.
This space is open to women who are sober, sober-curious, taking a break, reassessing their relationship with alcohol, or simply beginning to question how drinking is impacting their midlife health and wellbeing.
Coaching can be a powerful place to explore honestly and without judgement. You might be:
Wondering whether alcohol is worsening anxiety, sleep, or perimenopause symptoms
Tired of the mental load of moderating
Taking short stretches of sobriety but struggling with consistency
Clear you want to stop and ready for support
Wherever you are, you are welcome.
We use this time to build awareness, strengthen nervous system resilience, understand hormonal shifts, and help you get clear about what you truly want. From that clarity, confident decisions become much easier.
You do not need to arrive perfect. You simply need to arrive willing to look honestly at what is going on and what you want next.
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No.
Alcohol may be the entry point, but our work is often about much more:
Nervous system regulation
Hormones and perimenopause
Stress and burnout
Boundaries and people-pleasing
Identity and purpose in midlife
Parenting teenagers and ageing parents
Reclaiming energy and self-trust
Sobriety creates the solid ground. From there, we build a life that feels aligned and sustainable.
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Then you are exactly the kind of woman I work with.
Midlife drinking patterns are rarely about willpower. They are often about:
Hormonal shifts
Nervous system overload
Cultural conditioning
Decades of coping strategies
We look at the whole system. When you understand what is happening physiologically and emotionally, self-blame softens and real change becomes possible.
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Yes.
As a certified Menopause Doula and holistic coach, I integrate education around:
Oestrogen fluctuations
Cortisol and stress
Sleep and recovery
Liver health and alcohol metabolism
How alcohol interacts with perimenopause symptoms
This is not medical advice, but informed psychoeducation so you can make empowered choices and advocate for yourself.
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Great question!
I am an ICF Accredited, trauma-informed Integrative Sobriety & Wellbeing Life Coach, specialising in holistic support for women navigating midlife, peri menopause, sobriety, and stress.
I blend lived experience, professional training, and deep compassion to my work. I was a finalist in the International Coaching Awards (2019), and am proud to align my work with the SHE RECOVERS® Intentions & Guiding Principles as a certified SHE RECOVERS® Coach.
I also serves as a Coach Mentor and Associate Coach Trainer for The Coaching Academy, supporting the next generation of coaches.
My professional training includes:
ICF Accreditation (ACC)
Certified Menopause Doula
YT200 Certified Yoga Teacher
Certificates in Counselling, The Science of Happiness, and the Neurobiology of Stress
As a coach, I abide by the International Coach Federation Code of Ethics, am fully insured, and undertake regular supervision and CPD to maintain my credentials.
When choosing a coach or recovery professional, it’s important to ensure they are trained, insured, and ethically aligned.
You can find helpful guidance via Alcohol Change UK
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Coaching helps you explore where you are now, where you want to be, and what’s getting in the way. It’s collaborative, reflective, and focused on helping you reconnect with your own wisdom, patterns, values, and next steps.
Mentoring draws more directly on my lived experience, professional expertise, and practical tools. Alongside reflection and support, I may offer guidance, education, resources, nervous system tools, sobriety strategies, or insights from working with many women through midlife and alcohol-free change.
In reality, my work blends both — offering compassionate space to explore, alongside grounded support and practical guidance.