Many of us start the day with good intentions, only to find that by the time midday hits the wine witch starts chatting and we start thinking about what a great idea a glass of wine is later. We might talk ourselves out of it, but then may have forgotten to eat lunch, an emergency doctor’s appointment because your child was running a fever, we could have received some bad news or heard something unkind and our mood & motivation starts to dip. By 5pm the wine-witch is yelling in our ears as we juggle homework, dinner prep and telling people 10,000 times the same thing without anyone taking any notice.
Our brain quite rightly searches for our precious Me Time, when we can finally breath, have a moment to ourselves and sit down. In our frazzled states this has the flashing neon sign ‘WINE” written all over it.
It’s not surprising, really. Alcohol is marketed as an essential part of fun, relaxation and connection with cultural associations of Mummy Wine Time everywhere from birthday cards, to mugs, to memes on social media. However your experience with alcohol is yours alone and if it doesn’t feel good to you, that is permission enough to stop.
It’s an absolute power tool to be able to ask better questions about what we need from our Me Time at the end of the day, and get sustainable and healthy tools on board.
When we arrive at that precious Me Time moment, we arrive with the baggage of our day. It can take time to come down from the fast pace of the working part of the day and this transition can actually feel uncomfortable.
THE SCIENCE SECRET!!!! Did you know, this is your nervous system and your brain chemicals (neurotransmitters) trying to balance.
We have compiled some evidence -based tips and tools to help you hack your brain and nervous system to transition smoothly to reclaim your ME TIME in a way that won’t come back to bite you tomorrow. If you boss the transition and the Me Time you are winning GF X
1) GET TO KNOW YOUR FEELINGS & NAME THEM
I feel sad, I feel stressed, I feel angry, I feel resentful, I feel lonely, I feel happy, I feel anxious.
Once you have identified the feeling you can trace it to the neurotransmitter that is out of whack.
2) Applying the right self-care and wellbeing strategies to really answer to your needs will redress the imbalance.
If you feel sad your serotonin levels are depleted. Fixes for sadness are:
Do you feel stressed and need to dial it down? Your brain is probably flooded with cortisol so activities that balance this for example:
Are you angry? Maybe you are in adrenaline overload? Why not:
Maybe you feel resentful and under-appreciated and are looking for a dopamine boost through a treat
Is it a lonely feeling? Maybe you need to up your natural store of oxytocin?
Are you happy and want to celebrate?
Do you feel anxious? Want to feel grounded and to settle yourself? Your GABA levels are probably depleted. GABA normally inhibits brain activity, enabling you to relax. When you’re low in GABA, your mind gets stuck in the “on” position and you’ll find yourself anxious, overstimulated, and overwhelmed.
All these practices will boost our own ability to feel better balance and calm and happiness in our lives, add in that SOBER TREATS every day we can really boss our me time without wine and feel not deprived by our sobriety but revived by our choice to go alcohol-free HURRAH!