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Love  Sober 

 

 

Coaching, Courses & Community for alcohol-free living

 

 

 

 

LOVE SOBER LIFE SCHOOL SS24 3 MONTH GROUP COACHING ENROLLING NOW!

'Love Sober is the go-to service for women who are questioning their relationship with alcohol'  

Trish Halpen, Postcards from the Midlife.

 

Hi, I'm Kate. I'm a sobriety & midlife coach, an author, the founder of Love Sober and host of Love Sober Podcast 2.0.

I am so glad you are here. Do you want to make your sobriety water tight and feel rock solid?

Read on! 

 

I'm here to tell you that choosing an alcohol free life is the best-kept secret and you are about to start a journey that will not only get rid of your hangovers, but will also improve health, your confidence, your relationships and empower all areas of your life. If this sounds good, let's get started .....

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Am I a Grey Area drinker ?

Between the extremes of an occasional drink and all wheels of the wagon, there is a huge spectrum of alcohol use and misuse, which although society normalises is, hazardous, harmful and high risk and is stopping you from living your best life. It will show up as hangovers and an internal battle years before anyone else would ever know it was a problem for you. How do I know? Because I was one too....

These questions might land with you and if they do, help is at hand....

Are you...

🍸 Sick of thinking about drinking?

🍸 Tired of waking up jaded?

🍸 Able to manage a few days of the wine then go back to it - rinse & repeat? 

🍸 In your midlife and know you want to make a positive change for your health? 

🍸 Realising that alcohol is costing you more than just money? 

🍸 Getting worse hangovers and increased hangxiety? 

🍸 Tired of the same old story ?

🍸 Looking for something to change?

Do you want to ....

🍸Make sobriety stick this time.

🍸 Achieve peace of mind, more energy & increased confidence

🍸 Build connections with brilliant women like YOU who get it

🍸 Be coached by professional coaches who have been sober themselves for years.

🍸 Explore a holistic, positive and enjoyable approach to sobriety based on the evidence-based habit change methods?

🍸 Join the growing number of people who choose to be alcohol free because they LOVE being SOBER

If you answered 'yes' to any questions in either columns you are in the right place! 

If you have read some quit lit, have done a time sober like Dry Jan, listened to podcasts you can join Love Sober Life School. If you identify as being in active addiction you can always book a discovery call and I can help signpost other services. 

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For next level-sober living  join Love Sober Life School  12 Week Group Coaching Program!

Enrolling now for SS24 Starting April 21st 

Make it stick this time as you learn to LOVE being SOBER with us.
Join holistic sobriety & midlife coach Kate Baily and love & relationship coach Dufflyn Lammers on THE holistic program for sober & sober curious women.

NB. This program is  intensive and is ideal if you are 3 months plus sober or have had sober stints in the past. If you are brand new to this, try the one month course and community option to see if Love Sober is a good fit, or book a call with me.  This program include community membership. 

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What is Love Sober Life School?


THE holistic self-development program for sober women.

• 12-week journey of supported self-discovery
• Weekly coach-led reflection meetings

• Tools based on the latest research into habit change and positive psychology and hormonal health.
• Daily videos, audio and written content to inspire & inform.
• Access to member community and peer support meetings.

• Learn about the neurobiology of stress to manage your triggers in a SMART way.

• Build a life you LOVE sober for greater health, happiness, peace and self-confidence.

• Evidence based tools from Positive Psychology, the Science of Happiness and the world of Coaching to enable you to create a life you truly LOVE SOBER.

SOUNDS AWESOME!

What People are Saying ...

Incredible - 5 Stars
I arrived at sobriety broken and lost and weary. With the help of Love Sober I have gradually been able to do the work of putting myself back together... forever grateful.

Having tried different ways of getting sober from making deals with myself and AA and online things, the thing that stands out about Life School is all the different angles - it's such a rounded education, the  science, research, what's going on with you, relationships, you realise it's not you being a failure. It's practical, planning for a night out, then I feel I'm saying no to alcohol and yes to everything else. And it's that's what has made all the difference. I am seeing things clearly for the first time. 

⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

Just brilliant - thank you - it's so worth the investment. It's changed how I feel about myself, my relationships, my marriage. It feels like the welcome mat to my life. 

⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

I’ve laughed along and I’ve cried and all the whilst feeling in the company of old friends. Love Sober is my safe space and my home. I can’t rate this highly enough. I’m nearly 8 months sober and honestly I don’t think I’d be here without Love Sober. I’ll be forever grateful.


'Please be kind to yourself and take this course. You won't regret it. Make sure you journal and take notes as you then have these ideas with you forever.'

 

'It has given me back enormous power in myself which alcohol and other recovery options completely took away. So the unique part of Love Sober is the self love, respect and ownership I feel that is enabling me now to stay on a path that I previously saw as something I didn't want. Now I want it more than ever and it feels much more effortless than before because the journey is enjoyable.'

You will be embraced as you are from the moment you reach out and you won’t have to be alone again.’


It was amazing to be fully supported and in the care of people who are not only passionate about what they are doing, but was also very skilled.

'Kindness, humour, warmth and the unconditional positive regard are so valuable and helped reduce the shame I felt and made me feel so safe to be honest. I very much appreciate your straightforward, practical approach and the utmost dedication you give.'

I honestly believe that this course has saved my life.

The course gave me the tools, confidence and support to know that the power to my own happiness is within me.

I feel as though I’m coming home to myself and that now not only with things be ok, that they are going to be amazing, special, exciting and however I want them to be.

 
 
 
 

Why it works....


Do you want to know a secret? The midlife is a freakin amazing time to get and love being sober. We have skills, strengths & experience to draw from which have got us this far but if alcohol has crept up or become a problem for us, it feels like hell. Hangovers are evil, the demands of caring and working and the hormonal shifts during midlife make drinking unsustainable and cost us WAY too much. 

It doesn't need to be this way...

As a coach, a woman, mother of teenagers, wife and a menopauser I know about transitions and this midlife one is a biggie for women. But with the right tools and support we can land in our power and claim our wellbeing and empowerment through information, boundaries, connection and expression. Sobriety is THE solid ground to ask 'What do I need right now?" In the Love Sober Community you will meet many women asking the same questions and exploring the same path.

We need a lifestyle and mindset which supports each stage of our lives. We HAVE to look at the whole picture: our personal history, lifestyle, hormonal shifts & stress impact the whole of our selves & our lives and can trigger addictive behaviours & lead to problematic relations with alcohol.
If it looks like this - multiple calendars, overflowing to-do lists, juggling needs of older parents, career, home, early motherhood, kids still at home, perimenopause or menopause and drinking to dial down the stress which now feels like the habit of a lifetime..... NOW is the time to get, stay and love being sober! 

Our programmes are written by ICF accredited coaches and habit change specialists  & facilitated by Certified Addictive Behaviours Coaches. We have supported women from all over the world to build happy, confident alcohol free-lives and free of alcohol to harness their happiness & wellbeing.

If you’re ready to change your relationship with alcohol, if you want to feel more confident and  embrace a healthy, satisfying life Love Sober can help. Join the programs and the membership community to find support, connection, hope, laughter, creativity to BOSS your midlife. 

Start your alcohol  free journey today! 

If you are struggling with alcohol use, or are sober curious reach out today and get support. 

Perhaps you drank to try to wind down at the end of the day, cope with heavy lifting of work and home life, perhaps in your midlife something has just shifted,  perhaps you identify as neurodivergent and used alcohol to try to mask sensory needs and social anxiety...

At Love Sober we support you in a way that feels good, that you can be proud of.

If have a secret to tell you.....You have no idea how good you are going to feel AND you do not have to do it alone.... so join us! 

LOVE YOURSELF SOBER 

The Course 

One Month Support, half price now only £47

Get started on your sober journey with the ultimate sober self care toolkit. With daily content you will be guided through the steps and tools to establish a base for happy, sober living. 

Bonus FREE monthly access to Love Sober community, peer support meeting and monthly coaching call with me. 

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Other options to get you started...

You can choose the membership only option or book a free discovery call with me. I am an ICF accredited life and sobriety coach, a habit change specialist and a certified Menopause Doula. I'm also an author and the host of Love Sober Podcast. If you are a woman in your midlife and you want to change your relationship with alcohol and discover how to boss this stage of life then you are in the right place. I have helped 100s of women discover and maintain happy, sober living and I would love to help you with your alcohol- free journey too. 

Get in touch

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Meet Kate ...

Kate Baily is an ICF Accredited  trauma-informed Sobriety, Behavioural Health  and Life Coach specialising in habit change,  holistic well-being for women, midlife, perimenopause transition and stress management. She was a finalist in The International Coaching Awards in 2019. A SHE RECOVERS® Coach means that she is trained in and her work aligns with the SHE RECOVERS® Intentions & Guiding Principles. She is a Specialist Coach Trainer for The Coaching Academy in Addictive Behaviours & Habit Change. She also holds certificates in The Science of Happiness Theory and Facilitationthe Neurobiology of Stress,  Counseling & Advanced Menopause Support.

She also is co-author of two best-selling books on holistic sober living Love Yourself Sober (Welbeck 2020) and Love Your Sober Year (Hachette 2022.)

Love Sober is proud to work in collaboration with The Coaching Academy, ARCO, Changing Chances and  She Recovers.

Hi! I'm glad you're here. I believe that midlife is an incredible time for women. I believe we rise, recover and rewrite the narratives of our lives and reconnect with our innate creativity, power & find our voices. We haven't got to this age without skills, resources, wisdom and strengths. At Love Sober we have a coaching mindset.

We help you remember your strength and find your solid ground through alcohol-free living so you can recover your balance and thrive.....

I want to tell you a bit about my story so you know you are not alone in this. When you reach that point when you want to change your relationship with alcohol you and start looking for some support, you have probably been thinking about it for a while. 

I stopped drinking in my early 40s after I had my youngest. She was three and my son six. My diaries in between her birth and my sober birthday are full of lists and goals and shoulds such as losing weight and detoxing. These were punctuated with regular hangover entries, saying how fed up I was of drinking, how I was going to give up that day, as I went round and around in circles. I was locked in a cyclical pattern, a hamster wheel of trying to cope with the stresses of life with the nation's favourite drug, regretting, giving up, drinking again to socialise or dial down the stress, rinse & repeat. 

I'm now in my midlife, Been on the sober path for ten years, with a few stops and starts. Now continuously alcohol free  for seven years. Life goes on (if we are lucky) and so I'm now navigating the menopause and my kids are teenagers. And that's the thing ... life keeps on coming and we keep growing, adapting, recalibrating. 

Before I became sober, my drinking looked on the surface to be ‘normal’ and drank about the same as most of my friends did. A few glasses of wine a few nights a week and a bottle or so on a Saturday night, whilst I nicked my husband’s fags. I had a very dodgy off-switch. The odd wild night this would result in a four day hangover.

Women's rites of passage are key times for many of us to experience mental health challenges and increased alcohol use. Motherhood is one of these when, even if we have support,  we can become depleted and overwhelmed. For me, the shift in identity/role, the loss of freedom, time and financial constraints bored down on me down on me it became all too easy to see the answer to all evils in a wine bottle shaped hug, that sparkling white medicine. 

The day to day job of being a mum, spinning plates, trying to work, keeping up with a baby and a very energetic and challenging toddler exhausted me and my mental health was actually in tatters. My husband  worked late in another city, getting back at 11pm most nights. I had little support - my parents live a long way away and we knew no-one in the new town. I was exhausted and depleted.

I missed spontaneity. I missed the person I used to be. Wine became entwined with those feelings somehow. 

This wasn’t every night; I worked to control it by making rules about when I would drink and how much I would drink. But alcohol had started to take a central role, becoming the focal point of my day as I raced through the cleaning; the playdates the toddler groups towards that Holy Grail of the 5 pm mark. Then, cooking the dinner like a million other  mums, I would exhale and pour my first civilised glass of wine. This always led to more - sometimes only half a bottle, in the week generally not a whole bottle, I would stop usually 3/4 of a bottle to prove I was OK. I counted units, set rules around my drinking such as ‘I’ll only have one glass tonight’ or ‘I’ll only drink one night in the week and at the weekend’ I would fail to meet those goals and feel disgusted with myself.

I had no clue about self-care or how to look after my nervous system. I just sprinted through my tasks, waving away red flags and I really saw that glass of wine as my reward. And it became the medicine, the thing to put the brakes on the sprint, a false force quit - I had lost the natural skill of resting and winding down. 

I just went hell for leather and then drank to stop. I saw what was happening as just life. I didn't have a choice about the evenings, couldn't afford a babysitter so I just got on with it. I did what women do - I found a get-around... wine.

I thought alcoholics were other people on park benches with a bottle of White Lightning, who went to AA, who ’had’ to give up drinking. How awful, how sad to be without lovely booze, I thought. I endured the walk of shame at the school gates too many times the morning after the night before, with obligatory shades and chewing gum. I used to laugh about that with other mums but inside I felt like crying.

Stopping was not easy; there was a lot of fear. How would I cope without my helper? I was having to rethink everything, I was fighting the brainwashing and marketing, facing the fears about relationships and friendships changing, not knowing how to switch off, trying to stay calm as really primal fears raged about I don’t quite know what. I worked hard at keeping busy till wine o'clock was past, I ate chocolate, I watched box sets compulsively.  But slowly, slowly the days clocked up. I immersed myself in quit lit and reading blogs on the site, made online friends and weeks turned into months. A new habit was forming and gradually felt less like pushing a boulder up a hill. 

It was when I started to work with self-care and started really looking after myself that being alcohol-free shifted into a place as a positive choice and about self-protection rather that self- deprivation. AS my sober friendships grew I felt seen and like I belonged.  Over time, I learnt not to engage with my own internal bully / the inner meanie who ran the show. By practicing little acts of kindness towards myself, the bully went quiet. I got the sober treats in and learnt about self- compassion in and the upward spiral continued.

I stopped seeing alcohol as a reward but for what it is-a poisonous addictive drug. It’s legal but it’s still a drug and it is marketed at women and mothers aggressively as a treat or reward. I find it helpful to remind myself that and they do not care you that are suffering or putting yourself and your kids at risk. They just want to sell you booze, sometimes at the end of the back to school aisle, as ‘mummy time’. Alcohol is not a treat and it is not self-care. And it stops you getting to grips with what you actually need because it causes a disconnection with your feelings.

I feel like a different woman today, a different kind of mum. I’m not second guessing myself because I’m hungover. And I’m not parenting under the influence which is obviously a no-brainer. I’m also not having to pretend I’m perfect because I’m actually hiding a drink problem. It’s not always easy and weekends can still drive me up the wall and I still lose my temper and my house is still a mess but I feel so thankful I don’t drink now.

Facing every day sober creates an emotional resilience that makes me feel like a warrior. If feel so proud of myself. Being sober means I see things that are really beautiful, I don’t miss those moments. I can listen better and I can ‘be’ better. I’m real with my kids. I’m not perfect. I don’t have to be. I’m enough. I don’t always feel like I am but on a fundamental level I know I am. I feel grateful that a drink problem did not have to be my ‘story ‘. 

I am passionate about supporting women to thrive and love being alcohol free and getting it out of their way because then the fun can really start! This is why I began Love Sober - as a blog at first- to share the good news that with connection and tools, information and a strength-based, respectful conversation that really looks at what we need as women,  we can rewrite our stories about who we are and what we need, free from the damaging effects of  alcohol. And THEN the magic starts to happen!

Together we can work it out and it will be ok - more that ok, it will be great. 

Love Kate x 

 

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